Lately I am beginning to feel like everyone and everything is conspiring against me. It feels like no one sees things quite the way I do, and that I am alone in the wilderness and the world. Whether this is actually true or not is irrelevant.
The details of what is going wrong almost does not matter, but let’s say I popped the same tire two weeks in a row, my sewer backed up and flooded the basement, and I have been having personal issues with my ex. It feels like it never ends.
It’s easy to give up and fall into a rut of negativity and woe is me. Don’t take the easy road. Everyone takes the easy road, which is why many people sit around complaining about everything going wrong in their lives every day. And they wonder why it doesn’t get better.
Life, quite often is just chaos. Everything around us seems to be falling apart, and many times it is not just one thing that goes wrong, but several. It is usually the case that if something can go wrong, it will, and often more than one thing at a time.
The reason we think it’s like “everything goes wrong at once” is because we only notice things when they happen in patterns to some degree. When a lot of things happen at once, it can be overwhelming and scary. It can seem like the world is out to get you, but I assure you it is not.
The thing is, you oversee your life. You determine how the story plays out. Outside factors may come in to shake you up a bit, but I encourage you to remember that every hardship you have ever gone through has been conquered. So, why should this time be any different? The real answer about what to do when everything seems to be going wrong: find a way to transform your perspective so that obstacles feel like opportunities.
There is also an opportunity to remember that we are in control of our lives. We are all choosing and guiding our lives every minute of every day, and by the choices we make and the thoughts we have, we mold and birth our future.
It is all about attitude. Negativity attracts even more negativity, so change your mindset. It is always important to practice gratitude but perhaps even more so when things are downright unbearable in life. Plus, once you hit rock bottom there is only one direction you can go, so give it some time. You will be moving on up before you know it.
One of the most important things I try to remember is “will it matter in 5 minutes, 5 days, 5 months, 5 years? If not, try to let it go.” If I keep that perspective then I can be in control of my reaction and continue to rise above as the Suburban Goddess Mom!