My life is full of transitions, at the crossroads of here and now. Every time I think I can’t take any more or I have conquered one, another shows up.
Life transitions can be positive or negative, big or small, planned or unexpected. Transitions (even happy ones) can be stressful and bring up mixed feelings. They all have their own sets of challenges, emotions, and work to be done. Transitions are challenging because they force us to let go of the familiar and face the future with a feeling of vulnerability. In every major transition, you are not only breaking up with a “season” of your life but also a version of yourself. The past two years of my life have been all about transitions.
Transition means change. We are often consciously or subconsciously resistant to change. Most of us like some predictability in our everyday lives, and the unknown does cause a certain amount of fear and stress. Transitions are not just simply a bridge to your next important phase in life, it is where you can choose to thrive rather than just survive. Transitions have three phases: an ending, a neutral zone, and a new beginning.
Usually transitions begin with a loss of some kind. Any significant loss makes people feel fearful and anxious. Our culture is very uncomfortable with uncertainty. Some examples of big transitions are leaving a job, getting separated or divorced, getting married, having a baby, starting a new job, retiring, serious illness or injury, and even the death of a loved one. On the positive side, transitions give us a chance to learn about our strengths and to explore what we really want out of life. This time creates a sense of renewal, stability, and a new norm.
When things are in disarray, you can stop and reflect on the hopes and dreams you once had but somehow lost sight of. Take advantage of this fork in the road. Do the work.
The best way to prepare for major transitions is to take some time for self-reflection. Use the following guide to help you to embrace change and make the most of your new role.
1. Recognize that transitions are hard, because they can shake your sense of identity.
2. Being in transition is a wonderful opportunity for growth.
3. Remind yourself why you chose to make the change.
4. Recall other times in your life when you’ve successfully dealt with transitions.
5. When you’re in transition, it’s easy to become overly focused on yourself.
6. Part of what helps you feel secure in a transition is having a support system.
Change is inevitable, and life is going to happen whether we want it to or not. Your perspective on that realization is the key. While it sounds like a cliché, the next step after an end is a new beginning, a new chapter, and keeping this in mind can give you the sense of a fresh start.
This Suburban Goddess Mom is open and accepting all transitions as they come. To me, transitions mean movement. And I am on the move, always looking forward to better things!!!